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How to Handle Being Back Home for the Holidays

Annnnnnnd, exhale. 

You did it.

You got through the midterms, stressful nights and first experiences. After all of this, the holiday break you were longing for is finally happening.

Now you’re heading back home for a little rest, relaxation… and rules. Once again, you’re heading back under the roof of your parents or guardians, and back to adjusting to their way of life. 

For most students, college gives you a first taste of being an adult: coming and going on your own, making your own decisions and even having your own personal space. Being back with your family means balancing that newfound freedom with bowing down to the powers that be (aka your parents or guardians).

Some people have great relationships with their families. Some, not so much. Take into consideration that they also have to adjust, and know that having problems when moving back home is completely normal.

Here are some ways you can make moving back home a little easier:

Don’t Change the Way the Machine Works

Things are bound to feel different. Back home, you can no longer blast music at 3 a.m. with your friends or run up and down the hallways all night. That should go without saying.

So for the time being, adjust to how the house typically works.

If you’re a night owl, that’s fine. But try to be quiet so you’re not disrupting the rest of the fam. 

Show Off Your New and Mature Self

Since you’re technically an adult, and you’re now starting to act like one (most of the time, right?), show just how much you’ve grown up.

When living in a dorm, you did your laundry, cleaned up your room and washed your dishes, right? Then do it at home, too.

During the busy holiday season, your family will love to have the stress lifted off of them because you know how to take care of yourself and your space.

Have a Little Chat to Lay Down the Ground Rules

For some, the holiday break can cause conflict between household members. Talking it out can help prevent problems from forming.

You’ve been living apart from your family for a long time, so try to set expectations of what this break will be like.

Do you have something you’d like to accomplish when you’re at home? Say so. Will you be busy still doing classwork? Say so. Having that open line of communication will stop confusion and misunderstandings in the future. 

Let It Go, and Have Fun

It feels like forever since you’ve had a moment to breathe, and this break is something that you earned and deserve for all of the hard work you’ve done in recent weeks.

Enjoy it, roll with it and know that even though heading back home can be a bit tricky to navigate, it’s worth your while to make it fun and easy— for your sake and your family’s. 

Author: Dylan Chidick

Dylan Chidick is a resident of Jersey City, NJ. Currently, Mr. Chidick is a sophomore at the College of New Jersey, where he was awarded a full scholarship and is studying Political Science. Dylan is passionate about politics and government and hopes to build a successful law and political career in the future. Dylan was a graduate of Synder High School in Jersey City, NJ, where he was the recipient of multiple awards, including the National Honor Society, Presidential Award, Student Leadership Award, and was selected as a Student Ambassador in Jersey City. Throughout high school, Mr. Chidick held several internships, including notable assignments with NJCU, where he was a liaison with important local businesses such as the Royal Bank of Canada. Mr. Chidick gained national recognition when he wrote his college essay based on his personal life experiences dealing with homelessness.